We have been D almost 2 years,I had mentioned her staying a couple of times and this time she just basicly stayed and watched TV and went to sleep,she woke up a couple of times but stayed there.She just tells me she isn't ready for a serious relationship so thats why there isn't anything physical.She isn't seeing anyone or going anywhere so thats a plus.I just wish she would take the next step
Randy, I have just spent some time reading your thread. You give me such strength! I am basically living the same life you are. My X and I have been divorced since December. I have done my best at DB but something always backfires. It is usually asking for "more". In my situation X and I and our 10 year old daughter do lots of things together. People see us out together and think we are back together until I have the lovely embarrassing job of setting them straight.One thing different is that we have sex. Lots of sex!!! I get so frustrated that he can spend all this time with me, give me his body, but not his heart. We go through this "life" like this until I get "needy". I want the words, I want attention. I want a relationship!! How can you be so patient? Can you give me any advice? My heart just breaks because of all this wasted time and the destruction of our M after 15 years. I could go into more detail but I am not going to take over your thread. I used to post on this board a lot pre divorce and came back to check on things. You gave me courage and made me feel like I am not alone. Thank you, Emma
I've said that many times!!! He usually says he will treat me the same just no sex. Or he will back off for a few days then things will end up back as usual where we spend time and sex together. Emma
I'm not as patient as it may seem,I too have a problem asking for more affection and she just says she isn't ready for a R yet.There is no sex.XW has never been a touchy feely type person and she won't have sex until she is in love with anybody.We are together every night until she goes home.I guess we have to cruise along and hope they fallback in love or we give up and try something new.I will leave thursday for around 10 days so maybe this will help since I cna't really go dark with her at my house.I can't figure out why they just can't accept the love we have to give.I will catch up when I get back and don't worry about taking over my thread use it all you want.
Oh my God Emma reading your post was almost like my situation--except for the sex part. Divorced three years and alot of people still don't know that we have ever been divorced. We all go to church together and always at school functions together. I just got my own aprt- no more OM and I feel like we are still married. I'm glad I came across your post! I'm not the only one!!! I often wonder--after three years divorced is it possible to rebuild and start a new marriage
I know I am pushing and I have to stop,part of it is I am going to be gone for 10 days and in trying harder makes it worse. Why does this have to be so much work and I need to figure out how to gain some control back.
