Your H sounds as though he is sick and in need of help -therapy or counselling.

I think you will run through a whole range of emotions now.

It does sound as though your fear of things like the post etc has been brought about by living with someone who is deceitful - even if you didn't know the details I suspect in some way your gut was telling you SOMETHING was wrong.

I am so sorry that this has happened to you, but this is a great place for support, and I am sure, in time and if you want, you will find another man who can love you as you deserve to be loved. Of course, if your H receives the help he needs, perhaps that OM might be him!!!!!!

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength