Lynn, one thing that I have been told over and over again (and yes I have a thick head) is that when you "help" your WAS you are really letting them have their cake and eat it too. They have no need to leave the OP because they are secure that you will also be there for them. The first and hardest thing you should do is try to emotionally detach yourself from your wife. She is in la la land right now living out a fantasy world. By making it easier for her, she feels entitled to continue on the same way.
I know that is a scarry thing to do, especially because it feels like you may lose them if you do it. But the reality is that they are already gone. This is a time to take care of YOU and to GAL and to GROW. That way, if they come out of la la land, you are in a better place to deal with what YOU want from the relationship. As hard as it is, let her go and do not help her any longer.
On the up side.....97% of all affairs crash and burn in less than 2 years. Of the 3% that go on to marry, 80% of them will end in divorce in 5 years. She has her own journey right now and you need to focus on yours until/if she wakes from the fog.
Good luck!
Last edited by brokenhearted; 06/17/0808:46 PM.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
