Elwood,I guess the first thing was I was there when she wanted sometimes but not always.She had the same calenders for the kids so I didn't remind her she basicly got left behind.There were times when she didn't talk to them from wedesday until sunday while I called every day when she had them.It started changing slowly and now she is at the house every day and more and more of her stuff gets left there whether its something she brought over to cook with or whatever.Invite her to do fun non threatening things with you and son but not everytime.
I have asked her out for a real date and we have done some things together and had a good time.We seem to have so much going right now that it seems tough so we just spend time together.
