I am looking for someone to give me some words of wisdom as I feel I am still in shock from the bomb I received 3 days ago. My H admitted he had been unfaithful to me many times during our 15 years together. This included 3 one-night stands, one PA lasting 1 year and one PA lasting 3 years. I never knew about any of them. He had had a short PA with one of my best friends 2 years ago which I knew about, but that seems now to be of least importance.
He feels powerless to stop being unfaithful and doubts he is capable of any relationship longer than a couple of years. He is not willing to risk our relationship any further by staying together and having more counselling etc. He doesn't think anything can help him. He's tried counselling and religion and neither have helped him.
So that is it. On one day I found out who my H really was, and before I had time to get angry our marriage was over. I feel like I screamed and the wind whipped it away. I am trying to deal with the two concepts at once and getting very confused.
I don't want to go on too long, so I'll write more in the next post.
Me:36 M:16 D final: 08/09 Ds:10&5 Ss:8&3 Bomb 3xPA 200 sexual encounters 15/06/08
