Sitting here reading my own words, I came up with something that might be stupid. I think often women (or, if you like, low-desire people) think that what sets the love a spouse should have apart is the strength or the intensity of the love you feel.
I can't speak for all high-desire people or men, but I don't see it that way. You often don't really love your spouse "more" than you love other people, you lover her differently. Think about it. What would you do to save your best friend's life? Or your mother's? Or you child's? Would you give up everything if it would save your mother or your father? Would you step in front of a bullet to save your child? Probably.
What higher "amount" of love could you show your spouse than that? There's no higher measure. There are only two things that set your love for your spouse apart from other people you love just as "much":
1. Time (you pledge your life, you spend the vast majority of your time) and 2. Sex. You mate with your spouse, literally. It's the only loving thing you do for your spouse that you wouldn't do for anyone else. Do you see why that's NOT a small thing? It seems that way to people because they think of the small amount of time we spend having sex, or maybe because they see the way some people throw sex at anyone who catches their eye and thus devalue it . . . . but for the average, married, monogamous couple, it's the uniqueness of sex that matters, not how much time it takes out of your day. It's a BIG deal.
