Anyway I know she is going out with him tonight. I really appreciate her honesty and I found out yesterday that it's better to know than to wonder.
I don't want to do anything right away but I'm wondering if I'm doing the right thing. Should I set more boundaries when it comes to this? If I do she'll probably just have her mom watch the kids. Although since her mom is sick it may limit the exposure. I'm definitely uncomfortable with it, but not sure I should tell her that since it may just make her be deceitful again. It's also disrespectful, but I know her mind is in the clouds and she's not seeing these things.
I'm hoping that you wise DB's may have some ideas on what to do or how to deal with this issue.
Hi, Lynn! Oh, I'm sure they will have some ideas here! I was advised early on that I shouldn't facilitate my H when he is going out with OW (I was washing clothes half one night before he went off with OW on a trip). With hindsight, I can see that was really good advice, and I think that was my "bottom" and I stopped being as much of a doormat after that (although I'm still working on that).
I don't think you should be helping your W in any way to continue her affair. And my H also was very upfront about his cheating, like that excuses his behavior, but I don't believe it does, when they do something horrible and tell you about it. Anyway, I'm sure you will hear from others here, but just my 2 cents! Karen
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