The actual act of painting is not that bad - it is moving all the furniture and taping that I takes the time.
I saw your videos - well done! Do you take those with a little camera? I bought a new camera recently and I found that it does excellent video. Your interaction with Grace is so similar to mine with Nyleen.
Do they have air conditioning at the D-Back games?
I know that if I can get the place taped off, I'd be fine w/ painting. I'm just putting that part off. I hate prepping, but if you don't do it, then it is a HUGE nightmare.
As for the videos, yes they came from my digital camera. It is a pretty cool little device and it seemed to work pretty well. Grace is cute and she had a blast.
Also, yes the roof was closed and the AC was on yesterday - thank goodness.
Rob, I was thinking about you today and the painting job that is before you. I remember years ago painting the entire downstairs of our home when I was off in the summer, Yes, the prep is the worst. I also remember feeling so resentful of my H because he did not lift a finger to help, even while I was caring for 3 kids. The resentment made the job much harder. I wish I had done it , realizing he was working and also did not have the skills or interest. If only we could have been supportive of each other , it would have been so much easier. So, Of course you are putting this off, it is another signal to you that your family is split. Try to think of the job as a step in getting a better life. If not with w than someone else. Also the wonderful way you are handling the issues between you and W about D , will help D have positive relationships with men, no matter how hard your W is trying ( maybe not realizing it) to make sure that does not happen.
Yes, I'm putting it off b/c I know it means a movement forward and a change that mhy heart really doesn't want to make. I've got to get it done, so I'm going to try and turn the volume up on the baseball game and then move around the house and try and tape the ceiling joints off. If I can get them taped off, then maybe I'll start painting tomorrow. I really don't have much on the schedule, so there's no reason I can't.
Anyway, I'm back from the gym and I have energy, so I think I'll start with it now. I need to focus and just get it all started. The job is easy if I'd just start it off.
Thanks again for popping in. I welcome your words always.
Rob, Just try to remember , the pain you are feeling is only the price of love.I know just how you feel , you would do anything to fix the sitch if only your W would meet you halfway. I had an incident tonight that was similar. My H came home and yelled and blamed me when I mentioned a situation with our gardener. I so felt at that moment that I could not take the abuse another min.. I called an very old dear friend, she gave me great advice, "love him through it because you do not want to live without him no matter how crazy he is". She was so right! I waited , let him cool down , re presented the situation, and explained to him the lawn is not my fault and I am only trying to help. While he was still irritated he at least told me what to do. I think some people just fall in love for life, good or bad and some run at the first sign of strife.
This is so true. My W is running away and I'm doing whatever I can to love her through her craziness. I know the OM is still around, so that helps to keep her anger at me and I'm sure he's not doing me any favors when my name comes up.
So, I'm resigned to keep moving forward, but I do miss her terribly and it is so sad that she only sees me as the reason our little family is no longer together.
It takes two to tango, but W doesn't want to view it that way and she might never be able to do so.
In any event, I'll always love her no matter what happens to us. If I go elsewhere and move on w/ someone new, there will always be some saddness in my heart for what I lost in W.
Seems like a lot of us have painting hanging over our heads... I do too! But unlike you I am not going to attempt to do it myself.. I'm looking to hire someone (at a reasonable rate) which is proving to be somewhat of a challenge.
Sorry I haven't commented in a while. I feel ill equipped because I just don't understand your W and all the spew that flies out of her mouth on a regular basis.
You seem like an amazing guy and it pains me to hear how horrible someone can be to you. Someone that supposedly loved you so much that you procreated a beautiful little girl (she is beautiful by the way.. and you are too).
Anyway, you deserve all good things... and it's going to take a very long time, if it's even possible at all, for your wife to be deserving of you.
Yes, it does feel like I'm moving through quicksand. It really sucks the life out of you and my ambition is at a pretty low level.
I did manage to begin taping the seams in the bedroom last night and I'm planning on doing more of the house today, but so far, I'm just waiting for my coffee to finish brewing so I can try and wake up a bit.
I'm working on exercising daily and I had plans to get up at 6:15 and head straight to the gym. The bad news is I haven't made the gym yet, but the good news is I forced myself out of bed shortly after 7 which is a change from sleeping in until whenever. So, I guess it is baby steps right now.
I'm glad you chimed in. I've enjoyed your insight on Kerry's thread and I hope you'll come back to mine from time to time as well.
Good morning, my dear. So nice to hear from you to start the day.
Well, I've thought about hiring a painter myself, but that would involve W signing off on it or my eating the cost completely and I am pretty cash strapped w/ the D proceedings, so it looks like I'm in this alone. YUCK! At least I've started some taping and I'm hoping to get most of the house prepped by the end of today so I can finally crack a paint can open.
It is ok that you haven't commented. It is just nice to know that you've been following along. I don't get my W either except to say she's got a borderline personality disorder and is a narcissist.
I did discover in therapy the other day that I've always been attracted to women who need some sort of help b/c I grew up in a household where some one (usually my mom) always needed to be cared for. Thus, if I meet someone new and things feel great and familiar, I'm supposed to run like Hell!
Thank you for the nice comments about my little girl. She is so wonderful and I feel so blessed. People say she looks like her mother and I agree, but I'm hoping she'll have some resemblence to me so I don't have to go looking for the cable guy.
I think my saga will go on and on and on. There may never be a conclusion w/ W and myself that is the storybook DB ending. It will end some day, but I'm not sure it will be one of those "happy endings" - at least not for me.
Thanks for coming by, love. I hope to hear from you soon. RTL
