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What if I'm just plain not attractive?


I dunno how it is for other Women but it really isnt about looks for me ( my h is good looking \:\( BTW).... it is about how my H makes me feel.

Yeah I would rather be Married to Gene Simmons than Phil Donahue,,, but I also want him to be faithful to me and me alone.

I think Men forget that Women like to be Romanced but we also like for Men to take charge... and not in a Neanderthal way but in a Manly way.
It really turns me on when my H does manly things,,,, and when he acts like a cave man?

EEEEW big turn off.

I also think there is a huge difference between giving space and then being seductive... maybe some middle ground would be good...

Example.... you come up behind her and kiss her neck "seductively" and hug her from behind and leave it at that.

I dunno what your sitch is so maybe my example is far too bold yet for her.

And just like the title of the thread.. it will be bumpy for awhile and then for some reason when you both get it it seems like the road is smooth sailing...... it is well worth the effort.
All you can do now is give your best and then later if it doesnt work out you can contemplate. So now focus on what you can do to change.
That alone ,not on ~what if.
Maybe she wants a Mix of Leo and Gene.
Like someone told me .. slow down and really pay attention to what she wants what she needs and what works.
I have been doing that for awhile now ( 3 weeks about w/ another 2 under my belt of Reconciling... pheew~!*) ,

really paying attention to my hubby.
He really likes if I put him in my mouth w/o expecting anything in return... wooooohooooooooooooooo!
last nite he said he was cold... I replied..

"well if I put your C*CK in my mouth I bet you wont be cold anymore..."
He replied " probably not."

So I also gather Men dont really want to be Married to Jennifer Aniston they really want to be Married to Angelina Jolie and if she can cook and clean that is a bonus.... ;\)

Sorry to hijack but you seem to be trying so hard in your post I thought I would give you my 2 cents.

Just a thought...
Take Care SB~
~Ali