So I decided to go grocery shopping tonight (not often I can do that without kids in tow) but obviously I will need to come home to get the groceries in etc. Then what. Do I take off again, or just go outside and work in my garden and make myself scarce?
Hmmm...I would probably do either one, leave or work in your garden. Definitely make yourself scarce. He can't miss you if you two see each other all the time. He needs to see you doing things you enjoy and doing things for yourself. That is the perfect time because I am sure you don't get much time to yourself with two young girls!
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He's a great Dad, so plans to see them like every other day. All the weeknight things will probably be here, and we can't afford for him to eat out with them each time he sees them, so how does that work? Do I cook for him with the girls, feed them early, say..... "bring groceries to cook for you and the girls" (not likely since he'd be coming straight from work, and without stopping doesn't get here unil 6:30pm).
That's a tough one. Maybe on the days he comes there HE can cook rather than you....he wouldn't necessarily have to bring groceries, but he could do the cooking. You could just tell him you have plans but the girls need to eat so he will need to cook for them. You have to step back enough for him to truly see what this would be like. I do think it will start to get hard on him seeing the girls that much if he lives so far away. That will start to take a toll on him.
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I want to tell him about it, but I'm worried that he'll just see it as a "guilt thing" instead of me informing him how they are doing.
Maybe someone with kids can chime in here. Would it be a guilt thing though? I have a feeling that by telling him you would be hoping he would say "wow, this is really tough on her...maybe I should just move back". I think you would at least be hoping that it would trigger those thoughts.
Is there something that you would want him to do about it? If so, then if you brought it up you could say "D6 has been acting out lately, I was wondering if you could have a talk with her." I guess just ask yourself what you would expect him to do or how you would expect him to react by telling him. I know you probably genuinely want him to know how she is doing...just think about your expectations.
