I think getting into short-term counseling is a good idea. You have Retrouvaille coming up in a few weeks, and that should help. Sg has made the point several times that sometimes people feel that if Retrouvaille doesn't work for them, then there is no hope. That isn't true. As good as Retrouvaille is, it is still only 2 days of training on how to work on your marriage. It takes a lot of practice, and it comes easier for some than others. Two days of work is not a lot of work in the scheme of things. And many times the problems are deeper than communication. I just say this as a warning. I don't want you to go to Retrouvaille thinking it is the 2-day fix. It is good, but it took years to get where you are today, and it is small babysteps to get out. Soemtimes, it is even hard to tell you are making progress. So you are right not to wait for Retrouvaille. You need a plan that includes Retro as a component.
