W was her usual self when I dropped off D yesterday. Ok to me, but very distant. I was polite and left it at that.
D asked me when she would see me again and started going through the days out loud. D then stopped and asked W if it will be 3 days before she sees me again. W then got on the phone and said "why is she talking about visitation with you?" I told her that I hadn't said a word and she was the one who had brought it up and I was simply answering her questions. I also added that I don't discuss it with her, contrary to what she chooses to believe but I will answer her questions when she asks. W then handed the phone back to D.
I decided to reply to her e-mail from the other day and I said that there have been instances where I could have said no to buying D things and I will in the future. I also said it was sad that she thinks my wanting to be w/ D is being done to abuse her b/c it is simply to allow me to have as much time w/ my D now that our family is apart.
I also mentioned that I don't discuss custody and will continue to do so, but I will answer questions D may have concerning when she'll see me again and for how long. I then addressed the bed time issue as well as discipline. All the while I did my best to affirm and not defend my position (except for the 50/50 time thing as I didn't see any way to affirm w/out defending my position). I ended by issuing an open invitation for her to discuss matters that are related to our D at any time she wishes and I thanked her for expressing her thoughts and concerns.
So, now I'm just waiting for what she'll do next. I'm continuing to focus on not letting her get under my skin so much, but it is difficult. However, I must continue to try and trudge along.
Today, I'm hoping to be constructive w/ something around the house. I really need to start paining, but I simply don't want to, so I'm dragging my feet terribly. Maybe today is the day I stop procrastinating on this painting project and get it done.
But maybe is also the day I put it off until tomorrow.
