that's cool that you are going to the game with Grace. Well, not exactly cool in Phoenix but "I guess you know that" lol. Have fun and I hope they have the roof closed up and the a/c roaring (as I am sure they do). Happy Father's Day. Grace is a lucky daughter.
RTL my man, I hope you had a great time at the game today with Grace.
I must say, whenever I read your W's emails it really irritates me. She just sounds like she is so full of herself. I really hope she changes for the better and realizes that she cant tell you to do squat in the future.
Hi Rob... I think your W is angry at herself.. I would be, because I am sure there is a grain of truth in what she is saying? But, people only do to you what you let them. If she felt isolated from friends and family, she allowed that to happen, there is no point blaming you.
On the gifts.. I have noticed you saying you have bought D this and that as you retell your days with her, so maybe hse has a point there? Its not good to give kids everything they want? Do you think that your W has a point there? (but making too big a deal out of it, hey, cut you some slack, your W and child just left and you miss them and you want to spoil her and make her happy, its understandable) - its like, why cant she be more gentle about hte way she sees your sitch? She has no sympathy with your plight, she feels justified in walking out and she thinkgs its your fault and she should suck it up! I would reply:
Why dont you stop fighting ME for my right to 50% of custody, shes not just your D, shes as much mine and I have as much right to raise her as you do. And, stop blaming me for how things were, people only do to you what you let them, you should have COMMUNICATED with me if you felt that bad. Take some repsonsibility.
Your loving ex-H
Ok, thats not DBing, but I am mad at your W. She is a big child.
Hope you are ok Rob, you have had such a tough time of it, sorry if this post is a bit challenging? You are a great dad, ok, you buy too much stuff at the moment, but at least you are committed and loving and hands on, many men would have given up and walked away in your shoes, I know some that have done that and they dont see their kids. So be proud of that,
Ali x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
My father's day was great and it sounds like you had a cool one as well.
My W irritates me too. She is a complete narcissist and is full of herself. I'll post an update of our interactions tomorrow, but I'm working tonight on getting the video of Grace at the D-Backs game up and running.
BTW - they advertised for the upcoming Portland Beavers' homestand, and I naturally thought of you -- and the lonely ladies on Kalni's thread.
Thank you for the Father's Day wishes, my love. I think I'm a pretty good dad and I'm going to always try to be better.
As for being a good friend, I can only hope I've been a good friend to you, my dear Sunshine. I absolutely love it when you post on my thread. I'm also hoping I can be of help to you at times w/ your sitch.
Great Post! Lots of good things to chew on - and wish I could say. I've written her back and I'll post that tomorrow. Right now, I'm just too tired to get into it further.
In fact, I'll discuss more from your e-mail tomorrow as well. Right now, I'm trying to get these darn videos up so I can go to bed!
W was her usual self when I dropped off D yesterday. Ok to me, but very distant. I was polite and left it at that.
D asked me when she would see me again and started going through the days out loud. D then stopped and asked W if it will be 3 days before she sees me again. W then got on the phone and said "why is she talking about visitation with you?" I told her that I hadn't said a word and she was the one who had brought it up and I was simply answering her questions. I also added that I don't discuss it with her, contrary to what she chooses to believe but I will answer her questions when she asks. W then handed the phone back to D.
I decided to reply to her e-mail from the other day and I said that there have been instances where I could have said no to buying D things and I will in the future. I also said it was sad that she thinks my wanting to be w/ D is being done to abuse her b/c it is simply to allow me to have as much time w/ my D now that our family is apart.
I also mentioned that I don't discuss custody and will continue to do so, but I will answer questions D may have concerning when she'll see me again and for how long. I then addressed the bed time issue as well as discipline. All the while I did my best to affirm and not defend my position (except for the 50/50 time thing as I didn't see any way to affirm w/out defending my position). I ended by issuing an open invitation for her to discuss matters that are related to our D at any time she wishes and I thanked her for expressing her thoughts and concerns.
So, now I'm just waiting for what she'll do next. I'm continuing to focus on not letting her get under my skin so much, but it is difficult. However, I must continue to try and trudge along.
Today, I'm hoping to be constructive w/ something around the house. I really need to start paining, but I simply don't want to, so I'm dragging my feet terribly. Maybe today is the day I stop procrastinating on this painting project and get it done.
But maybe is also the day I put it off until tomorrow.
