Makes me soooo grateful to be at peace with H, and I pray it stays that way.
I know what you mean. It's funny how we can now find peace by settling for any amicable breakup... since it sure beats an all-out war. A year ago this would have been unthinkable.
But maybe you too are realizing that perhaps God is making plans to take our spouses out of our lives should they fail to wake up in time and recognize their errant paths -- that if D does come to pass despite all our best efforts it will be used by the Lord for our own salvation in a very difficult, undesirable situation. Perhaps God wants to insulate us from the damage these spouses insist on inflicting on themselves and others. Perhaps we are being given the obligation to stand independent and strong, as His earthly sanctuary for our children should their other parent crash and burn in sin and selfishness, as they seem want to do.
I've said it before, He has given you Nerves of Steel, Lwb. You've weathered H's worst and have grown strong for it. You will make it for your DD's sake, and they are very lucky to have you.
