Sweetie, you have to remember that no one else can make you happy. That comes from within. With Om of course you get all excited(you are like a kid doing something that they shouldn't and of course the possiblity of getting caught just adds to it) but you are not in love with him. You don't even know him. Your H on the other hand is Mr Reliable and probably not giving you the excitement you seek. Tell him what you need and what you want in plain English and see if that helps.

My H has said numerous times, "I haven't been happy", but what he really is saying I don't know how to make myself happy, you haven't done it and I have all these feelings for OW so I must love her.

Do you see the similarities? Instead of putting all this time in worrying and thinking of OM, work on you because any body that is the OP doesn't deserve the time of day. The are leaches, feeding off of someone's frailities.

Just my .25...take it or leave it.

kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory