thanks for all your wise words.Last night we were jokeing around and I said well I am just going to give you a great big hug and I did give her a hug we were just laughing and she didn't slap me or anything so I guess it went ok.She cooked supper at my house again last night and stayed there with the kids until I got done doing some work.It was kind of funny because I was standing in the front of the stove and she reached over to change a burner so I kind of stepped back and she said what are you afraid I was going to touch "it"I just said i am not the one that thinks they will die if they do.We just laughed about it