In november it will have been 2 years D and 1 year S.It seems like forever.Last summer we went on vacation together and afterwards found out she was seeing if she could "get" any feeling back and then things cooled off.Back in April she had surgery and i stayed at the hospital for a week with her making trips bring the kids back and forth.After that she seemed to start warming up.Now she has been at the house for the last 13 days out of 15 most of the time when I get home from work. She treats it like it is still hers,which I don't mind.Like changing the furniture around weeding the flower bed and changing stuff in the yard. She even called several times the other day to ask if it was ok for her to do some things when she was out with friends.The thing tha drives me crazy is that she won't hug or put her arm around me or things like that.I'm not talking sex just touching,she says it may be a while yet and don't push her.There has been a couple of times that she has bought something for her apt. and I would make the comment that you must not plan on moving home and she just replies"if thats what you think"and that buying that won't stop me.The biggest thing to realize is they make most of the rules but they really don't ,you have to let them think they do.They want to see that changes are there to stay and they are always watching.Also don't push.The best saying to remember is that when you plant a tree you don't pull it up every week to see if the roots are growing.Good luck
