Hi mkultra, my social life is pretty much zero here, I'm a fish out of water, literally, I grew up in a fishing town and I just can't seem to click with the big city lifestyle, that and the language barrier. So there is not much opportunity for dating, plus to be honest I'm not ready for it, I need to sort myself out some more first.

It must be hard with the constant contact, espcially at times when you need your own space.

My snoop, was the only one I've done and the photos were on my own camera, it could be her way of letting me know. I'm not about to ask her to explain, its her business.

All the same I really want to continue rebuiling my own happyness and I feel I need to make some fairly major lifestyle changes to get there which will take me away from W. I'm in a catch 22, if I remain here I'll remain unhappy and W will not be interested. If go then W will be off with OM.

I don't regret any of my DBing though, it's picked me up, put me on the right track, and kept things between my W and I from spiraling into animosity.