Then look good!!!! You deserve it. By looking good and confident you are more likely to bring him back.
As far as the house goes. My W and I had planned on selling our home before we even got S. She used that as a convenient breaking point when it did sell. She mentioned something about giving me about 20% of the proceeds on the argument that she paid the house note. I on the other had paid all the remainder of the bills. The argument I made was that I contributed equitably to this marriage and home and therefore deserved my half. She tried to get in a fight with me on it to which I just responded that is how I feel and that nothing would make me happier than for us to be getting a home together. Fortunately I had talked to a L a couple years ago when she threatened D and I was educated.
If he wants to treat you unfairly then just say something along the lines of I will need to think about it and by all means contact a L just for a free counsel...they should let you know what your rights are. Let the L know that you are not interested in a D and that you just want to treat your H fair if he chooses to have one but that you want to be protected.
I know what you mean about giving up your house. We went from a beautiful large home (that I designed base don our dreams) that the kids still refer to as their other home (they want to go back there) to her home which is about 60% the size of our home. It held a lot of memmories for us and it was a very sad day we both shared. I even wrote a short poem about it:
Designed from The dreams of two Built on The hope of more Lived in With the love of four
I had it framed and and pressed with a violet from the landscaping and gave it to my W on the day we sold the house and left a copy for the new owners so they knew what the house meant to us.
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He has got very fat and has acne and looks exhausted but he says that is to do with his job. What this ow can see in him I don't know!
I wouldn't count on it just being the job though he will likely never admit it has to do with the R. I would be compasionate and be his friend about how he feels if it comes to it
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
