Sorry to hear your H is still acting this way. Sometimes the things they do can be so confusing. I have been bombarded with the no trust thing as well when in my head I had reasons not to trust. One area I found helpful to look into was the MLC forum. I am not saying your H is in a MLC, but some of the irrational behavior is there. It helped me wrap my head around some of this behavior. For me it helped with the emotional detachement (minaly not taking the things said personally). Hope it helps a little bit. You could drop your H a line saying you are there for him with regards to your BIL going to Iraq, just be prepered to receive anything from no response to something along the lines of "I don't need your help" etc. I usually just brush this stuff off and remember to believe nothing of what i hear and only 1/2 of what I see.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
