I am of firm belief to pull out of a morass of post D one need to create a vision of what they want to be. That is difficult.

Often many wish include someone else eventually in that vision and hopefully that significant other is a complement not the basis of what the survivor of the Big D is to become. Otherwise the survivor will recycle the process.

Everybody has an agenda. I know the PC response is beautiful mind and such which is important but we were blessed with eyes, a nose, and ears along with other senses. The aggregiate is what people consider they find attractive so

I invite you to post what do you find attractive in the oppsite sex?
Do you want contrast (VW and Corvette)
Do you want similarity (to hares or two turtles)
Please add subtopics and reasoning for them.

Remember this is your agenda big in Your world.


"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work"
Steve Martin