I probably confused you because I am confused LL.I had someone tell me yesterday that no matter what XW or I called it we are dateing now because we are spending so much time together and I guess we are in a way.She values all time together as the same and it is tough to have adult time without the kids when we just don't go out but whatever works. I came home from work last night and she was there with the kids swimming and tonight she will help coach kids ball team with me so I do get a chance to show my good side and that is 95 % more than I got 6 months ago.