Yes, it makes sense. I think my W and I are in the same exact spot. Difference is that she wants to deal with it by getting rid of everything in her life that doesn't have a direct bearing on her academic goals. Problem is, that's no way to live life. I really feel for her and want to show her a better way, but maybe I can't - I certainly didn't.
But, enough of me. So, I think goals should include both of you, since you evaluate H as well as yourself. You only have control over you, but you are looking at your H to see what he does. So what do you think those small, realistic steps are for H that you would like to see to get to the larger feelings of reconnecting?
I mean, ultimately you are here because you care enough about your M that you are open to working on things. That speaks volumes. But I think you need to consider the small stuff in order to not get frustrated. For your own sanity.
Who else do you like to read besides Bach? I went to the bookstore, BTW, and picked up a copy.
