Bring on the Rain - Part 2

[Rob1231]

Hi Sue, Back from my vacation - I've been following your thread on my phone, but haven't been able to post.

You're really doing well, you know - you seem to really 'get' what's going on with H, and you are taking the right actions to look after yourself and your little sweetie. Just one thing I want to ask you to re-think:

I've been trying hard not to be so emotional but the past couple of days have been hard. One minute I think of how soon H will be living with OW, waking up with her each morning & the things that they'll do. Then the next minute I think of how I won't have to deal with H being cold and giving me those daily reminders of his selfishness.

I wouldn't be so sure about what happens with H and OW once you move on. Really, if that's what they both wanted and were commited to, they could have set up house any time - you moving out wasn't a requirement. Sure, I'll bet that's what H thinks will be next, in his what-color-is-the-sky-in-my-world, it's-all-about-me fantasy land. But that doesn't make it so.

After all, OW has her own issues, and her own family - and when it comes to actually moving out and abandoning her children, H may discover that he is not quite as irresistable as he thinks.

What I'm saying is, you don't have to buy into his BS. You know perfectly well that much of the spew coming out of his mouth is lies and self-delusion, and that the path he's on is nowhere near the road to Happily Ever After. Don't agonize over how great his future life is going to be - of the two of you, I think YOU are clearly the one who is going to be happy, healthy and strong in the end.