Bring on the Rain - Part 2

[LL44]

It hurt when she asked where he was going to hang it.

These little things sting me too.

He said, D4, trust me, there are plenty of people that would like to see this.

Ew! But very familiar to me. When H was deep into the A, he was cocky, self centered (very obvious) and just plain embarassing to be around because he was so immature (so many examples, but not worth naming here). He is a little more reserved these days, but still an idiot.

He saw someone carrying a 12-pack of beer into our building and said that he should ask them where the party is

Totally what H would say, but then tack on "Oh but lwb is so boring, she would just want to go to bed instead of going to any party".

The weekend was hard. I guess maybe I'm on a bit of a down swing right now....a little pity party

Ups and downs are ok, I promise.

Glad he is a loving father to D4 and attended her function.

'Take A Bow' is awesome. Also just heard an old song by Ace Of Base today "Don't Turn Around".

(((Sue and D4)))

[Rob1231]

Hi Sue, Back from my vacation - I've been following your thread on my phone, but haven't been able to post.

You're really doing well, you know - you seem to really 'get' what's going on with H, and you are taking the right actions to look after yourself and your little sweetie. Just one thing I want to ask you to re-think:

I've been trying hard not to be so emotional but the past couple of days have been hard. One minute I think of how soon H will be living with OW, waking up with her each morning & the things that they'll do. Then the next minute I think of how I won't have to deal with H being cold and giving me those daily reminders of his selfishness.

I wouldn't be so sure about what happens with H and OW once you move on. Really, if that's what they both wanted and were commited to, they could have set up house any time - you moving out wasn't a requirement. Sure, I'll bet that's what H thinks will be next, in his what-color-is-the-sky-in-my-world, it's-all-about-me fantasy land. But that doesn't make it so.

After all, OW has her own issues, and her own family - and when it comes to actually moving out and abandoning her children, H may discover that he is not quite as irresistable as he thinks.

What I'm saying is, you don't have to buy into his BS. You know perfectly well that much of the spew coming out of his mouth is lies and self-delusion, and that the path he's on is nowhere near the road to Happily Ever After. Don't agonize over how great his future life is going to be - of the two of you, I think YOU are clearly the one who is going to be happy, healthy and strong in the end.