You got to do what you got to do. You cant hang in limbo forever as you need to enjoy life. It will be great that you are closer to D14 and the Big Apple.
Hey, Kerry, that song actually is about Bethlehem and the economic downturn that resulted after the steel industry in the area collapsed in the 70s. Allentown just rhymes with more words. It is actually quite the booming place right now.
I talked to W. Basically asked how she was doing since she sounded so awful yesterday. Then I said, I know it's not the best time to tell you since you are already not feeling so hot, but I want to tell you before you heard it as a rumor from somebody else -- I'm going to be taking the job in PA. I told my partners this morning.
There was silence for a few seconds, then she started crying. Basically continued to do so for the next 10 minutes. Asked a few questions like when? selling the house? what's it like? But she really didn't say much, just wept most of the time. I asked to talk to SD to give her a few minutes, got to ask about her weekend with her father (they had a cookout), got caught up just a little, and told her I missed her.
I kept thinking -- this is what you wanted. You wanted to leave. You wanted the divorce. You are getting what you want and now you want to be upset about it. You want sympathy because you are getting what you want. But I just got back on the phone for a few minutes again, told her if she wanted to talk to call, then said goodbye.
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Oh, and Kerry, since you asked about moose -- thought you would like to know that a black bear (mother with two cubs) charged a cyclist in one of the popular city forests where a lot of people bike, jog, and walk their dogs. He fended the bear off, using his bike as a shield. The bear finally backed down and nobody was hurt.
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About W's phone call. It is what it is. She DID get what she wanted, the only problem is now, she isn't sure it was the right decision. Typical WAS. I think the next 3 months are going to be VEERRRYY INTERESTING(<<said in mysterious stranger voice). At this point, you did all the hoop jumping, if she wants back in, it is her turn to put up or shut up.
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
About W's phone call. It is what it is. She DID get what she wanted, the only problem is now, she isn't sure it was the right decision. Typical WAS. I think the next 3 months are going to be VEERRRYY INTERESTING(<<said in mysterious stranger voice). At this point, you did all the hoop jumping, if she wants back in, it is her turn to put up or shut up.
Life is always interesting. The next three months will be no exception. I agree, I'm jumping no more hoops. What she does is up to her. What I do about it depends on what she does.
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About W's phone call. It is what it is. She DID get what she wanted, the only problem is now, she isn't sure it was the right decision. Typical WAS. I think the next 3 months are going to be VEERRRYY INTERESTING(<<said in mysterious stranger voice). At this point, you did all the hoop jumping, if she wants back in, it is her turn to put up or shut up.
Life is always interesting. The next three months will be no exception. I agree, I'm jumping no more hoops. What she does is up to her. What I do about it depends on what she does.
Sounds like the perfect plan to me!
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Hey g - What's allentown like? Now I've got that stupid billy joel song stuck in my head. I thought I'd banished it out of my memory back in 1984. Thanks Kerry!
Hey g - What's allentown like? Now I've got that stupid billy joel song stuck in my head. I thought I'd banished it out of my memory back in 1984. Thanks Kerry!
I deliberately DID NOT open the link for just that reason, LOL!
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I'm saddened that I'm going through this, but there is excitement about the change. I think if I stayed around here, small town and all, it would be easy to fall into a rut that would be difficult to motivate myself out of. I know there are some of you who think it is a mistake slamming and sealing the door shut with a move, and really closing the door completely on reconciliation given W's confused state and the possibility she may still turn around in the future. Of course I wish things had turned out differently, but all I can say is that I am at peace with the decision.
Congratulations, G! I don't think you're making a mistake at all! It sounds like there are a lot of good reasons for the change: fresh start, closer to your D, etc. And I don't think it is slamming & shutting the door on you and your W. If anything, perhaps it will wake her up out of whatever fog she is in or whatever. But you've certainly made every effort to connect with your W (as we all do)!!! And now I have that song in my head too!!! Karen
I don't think you're making a mistake at all! It sounds like there are a lot of good reasons for the change: fresh start, closer to your D, etc. And I don't think it is slamming & shutting the door on you and your W. If anything, perhaps it will wake her up out of whatever fog she is in or whatever. But you've certainly made every effort to connect with your W (as we all do)!!! And now I have that song in my head too!!! 
Karen