A, You can do nothing to fix the problem between your h and your son. If it is to be repaired, it will done on God's clock, not ours.
I'm sorry to hear about the neighbor, but if he were the right kind of neighbor, instead of threatening a young man, he would have offered to help pitch in to get the job done. It sounds to me that the man is a bully. Your son's studies and grades are far more important than the grass being mowed or the shrubs being pruned. A, when you open up and ask for help, people will come forward, but you have to let them know you need the assistance. Now that you've taken the first step in accepting help, I think you will discover that you have more neighbors than bullies.
Your kids deserve your full attention and love right now. They need your support and to know that you are there for them. As for your h, well...you know how I feel about him right now....he needs to find himself and maybe he will and maybe he won't, but you can't sit on the sidelines analyzing his every move. You have a life to live and believe me, life doesn't stand still for none of us.
Continue to move forward.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
