3-4 weeks ago W told me she wasn't sure if she was in love with me and that she couldn't do the marriage thing. I'm 27, she's 22, 2 year old together, married for 2 years. I am going to acknowledge I ignored the warning signs all along (I work midnight to 8am so she's home alone with the boy, going to church regularly is important too).
Well last weekend she came home and informed me she can't do this, and she kissed her ex boyfriend that night. she told me she's never stopped loving him and she doesn't want to lose her last chance to be with him (he has been contacting her). Since then all she has wanted to do was leave but I insisted she stay and we see a counselor. bad idea. the counselor didn't really help and she didn't want to go anyway so that complicated things further. She has been purposely being short and snotty to me(obviously needs her space).
She agreed to stop all contact with OM while this was going on. Fast forward to last night; she told me the only way she can make this work is if one of us moves out. We bought a house less than a year ago. I offered to move back in with parents as there's already 4 people living at her parents (no extra bed or crib). Am I doing the right thing ?
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
i should add we've known each other for 10 years and she has had feelings for me the entire time. we got together, she got pregnant and we rushed into the rest. Being 22 she misses going out with friends and having freedom.
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
I would not move out. She is the one that is having the problem and talking to her ex. If she wants to move out then I say that she should do it. Also I would not force her to go to MC if she does not want to. You cannot make her do anything, however you should go alone it really will help you more than her.
I would get DB and DR and read them. They have some really good advice to help you thru this.
Also I would move your thread to For Newcomers. You will get more people reading your sitch that way.
