I know I have heard about a lot of people that have had luck with online dating. I know - I am difficult - or perhaps good at making excuses... Feel free to call me on it if you see me "creating" justifications to avoid getting out there.
The reasons why I am not comfortable online dating:
(i) I would have to post my picture. And well I feel very uncomfortable doing that... Am sure I will post about The Appearance Issue a few posts down the road...
(ii) I like to get to know people w/o the pressure of having to decide what I want NOW. In my ideal perhaps flawed vision of an R - I want the friendship first. And I move very slowly. I am a slow even among turtles.
(iii) I feel like it is tough for me to get a handle on a person online. You can be whoever you want to be. And once again - that whole pressure about what I want, where am I going... The answer truthfully is I don't know.
Okay - go ahead and poke holes in all I have said! It is very likely I will find something wrong with any suggestion anyone makes right now. But while I may disagree - I do listen and sometimes the wisdom percolates into my brain days after I read/listen to a post. So I am all ears.
Please forgive me if I am wrong... But you have remarried right? How did you meet your W?
Thanks for posting!
take care, AG
AG,
I will speak from my "unofficial knowledge" of eHarmony..... I am NOT saying I "officially" know anything.....
The only people who see your pic are your matches..... I really think it is important to share that as a "baseline"....... Many people just want a rough idea of what you look like....... From my pictures, gals have said the pics do NOT look as I look in person... Every one said I was "cuter" or "more attractive" in person....
As a guy, when looking for a gal, I was looking for someone I COULD be attracted to.... She does NOT have to be someone who blows me away.... What I personally find attractive and sexy is a gal's looks PLUS her personality.... Some of the most "plain Janes" in pictures are OFF THE CHART attractive in person....
Not everyone on eHarmony is looking for M tomorrow.... You can find a guy who is willing to take it slow......
You can NEVER get a handle on a person online. You need to put in hours and hours and hours on the phone or in person...... This is the EXACT same time you would have to put in to someone you meet elsewhere......
I am happily remarried to my "dream girl"...... I asked God for a few things....... I NEVER told Him I wanted her to be a Nurse.... I never told Him I wanted her to be a Latina woman.... Guess what? She is EVERYTHING I wanted.... AND she is a Nurse..... AND she is a Latina..... God is sooooooo awesome!
I met her somewhere...... I will not say exactly where.... But, you can guess based on my "unofficial" experience...
Take Care,
NMD
Last edited by No_More_Dodo; 06/16/0811:29 PM.
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
It is very likely I will find something wrong with any suggestion anyone makes right now. But while I may disagree - I do listen and sometimes the wisdom percolates into my brain days after I read/listen to a post. So I am all ears.
