No one is telling you to quit or to give up on your marriage.

This is a site about SAVING marriages, not ending them.

I think we are all pointing out that he is not a very nice human being right now. You miss the good man that he once was. And yes, there is a chance that he will be that man again. There is also a chance he will not.

As long as your heart tells you to stand for your marriage, you owe it to yourself to follow your heart. Just don't allow the love that you still have and the good memories that you still hold allow him to bring unnecessary pain to YOU right now.

Some might say that this is where the real DB'ing begins.

Time to re-read the books, maybe consult with one of the DB coaches. Time to find out how best to work in the direction of healing the rift and allowing for the chance of reconciliation.

As long as he is in selfish mode, involved in an affair, you should have nothing to do with him except for issues that involve finances or your child. One of the first boundaries of sorts that you set is to protect YOUR heart and mental well being by insisting that as long as he has HER, he cannot have YOU.

And the time alone is a great opportunity for you to figure out what YOU need to do for YOU and your child in the immediate future.

Don't sit around waiting. Waiting is life passing you by. Time to live YOUR life while your husband goes through this madness.


Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."