I've always told people that the reason I've been unsuccessful in relationships is that other people are involved.
Actually I am extrovert and other stuff on the Myers Brigges. I have some close friends that I let in - but they are still safe and it is a distributed system with lots of redundancy. I am not dependent on someone for anything that another friend in the group can't step in to help.
And I can walk into a room full of strangers, engage people, have fun and walk out w/o forming any emotional attachments. I seem to make an impression - but for some reason most of it doesn't stick as much at my end... Sometimes people get hurt b/c they think we have a connection - and well I don't...
And The X did say during our M that he felt that I didn't need him or trust him to catch me if I fell. And Michele suggested during the first session that perhaps The X needed to be needed by me....
And when I was stuck in a wheelchair for three months - well - that was when I was really tested... But I think my behavior was borderline insane when it came to preserving my independence...
I knew dating would open another can of worms... And here I was feeling so balanced and centered! LOL!
Are you as "unable to depend on another" challenged as I am?
I am not dependent on someone for anything that another friend in the group can't step in to help.
