Jon, my church is big on Celebrate Recovery, but I thought it was for addicts (alcohol or drugs??)? Am I wrong?
That's great! The addict question is a common misconception. Actually the first thing you learn in CR is that drugs, alcohol, etc. are never the problem. They are coping mechanisms for pain that you haven't dealt with. There are far more people struggling with control (anger, etc.) at CR than drugs and alcohol, because control is a deeper addiction.
I was skeptical at first, that these 12 steps, taking the personal inventory and dealing with all of this stuff in my past would actually make a difference. And on top of that, how can I convince my wife that I've changed? Sister-in-law and her boyfriend are also in CR, but W still doesn't buy it. She wants to stay judgmental.
Of course, she's heard a lot of junk from me before, and thinks this is just another program. I guess that's one good thing about this stupid separation, I wasn't desperate enough to take steps like this before.
Why not give it a try? I think you'll be surprised. And it's the only place I've found at church where I can talk about separation and divorce and not feel embarrassed.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
