Been 9 months seperated. I've sorted myself out had some IC, which has helped me a lot as has GAL, I'm moving towards a career change which I've been desperate to do for years.
I can DB my way to an amicable situation with W but I can't get past that. My W tends to block people out for months or even years and wont say why to anyone. I always knew this while we were married but managed to stay off the 'block' list with careful monitoring, but a lack of contact due to a long hours stressful job she had meant I got onto the list without knowing.
I hoped by DBing i'd be able to ease my way off the list. It starts to work for a while till there is something I have to take a stand on then I'm back on. I could fold on every issue but I'll just end up with a bucket of resentment.
I'm pretty much alone in a foriegn country, I speak the language well but not well enough for close friendships. I've made some english speaking friends here but none I really 'click' with or trusted. This weekend I came accross some photos of W on a weekend away with one of those 'friends'. So now there is OM in the mix too.
If we had kids I would keep on trying or if I was reasonable happy here, but I'm 34, I want to change my job and get out of the city and make some friends.
I can't see my W changing, epecially while she is going out with someone else.
Think my goal now is simply to db my way to an amicalbe D. It's a waste and I'm very, very sad about it but I don't think I can hang around any longer
