The very small, specific things that start to add up and lead to the big things?
Maybe writing those down and being able to refer back to them would be helpful to you at this point - help you judge where things stand and give you a next step to work towards.
lodo
Hi lodo, good thoughts..
Goal 1- When I feel my 'anxiousness' starting to rise as a result of my interactions with him, call a time out. 10 minutes to 24 hours, instead of falling back into old patterns of withdraw before being hurt.
2- Continue to try & be present in the moment, to find a way to say what's on my mind without assigning blame.
3- When "H" reacts to my saying what's on my mind in a negative way, let it slide off my back (be a duck).
4- Continue to provide positive feedback of what works for me, how it matters & why it matters. Decrease the amount of 'please don't do xyz"
Last edited by Bridgestone; 06/16/0807:20 PM.
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