ot-- The problem I had with Mother's Day is that he got me on the phone and didn't say anything. Then a few days later he expressed anger at me that he "couldn't" wish me a Happy, because he was afraid that I would see it as hope. (But that's been the pattern--he gets angry when I "make" him hurt me).
I feel that it is a respect thing--the kids wouldn't be in the world without each of us. I didn't send a card or gift; I was simply recognizing his role as the father of the children I love, no relationship past that.
You are right about the GF. And I'm not angry as much as disappointed. I certainly wasn't surprised. And the fallout will be his. When he blew it back in Feb, the kids found out that I had a major problem with her. I haven't spoken about her since with them. When S asked me "don't be mad at dad" after he told me about the weekend, I just told him I wasn't mad and it was ok.
The thing is, I really don't think it is ok, so I feel like I am lying to my kids. Not just for what this woman has done to me and my family, but also with the kind of mother that she is. But I know that I can't do a thing about it... I think I will try writing an email to him about this; he had agreed in the divorce that he would consult the kids' IC, and he didn't. I just know that it is going to piss him off, as he sees any concern of mine as me trying to run his life. I can also call the IC myself before-hand and get her input.
Blech. I have to be around him tonight for my S's Court of Honor. His parents are coming with me, but in recognition of their grandson. I plan on a polite hello if he approaches and nothing else. I'm guessing I won't even get that (as nothing was said at court).
I can't believe that this was the man who I loved so very much--now I can't even say hello without there being a big inner-debate.
