Puppy, I'm sure you have some 2x4s for me and I probably deserve them. If I'd taken your advice from the start and held both her and myself to a higher standard, and enforced that standard, things would probably be much different. Who knows - it's so hard to see the right direction when you're in the midst of things and all you can rely on are your own instincts. For better or worse, mine are to be understanding and loving - a nice guy, who I guess will always finish last.
No 2x4s from me, brother. This sh|t is HARD, and I think you've handled yourself with grace, courage and compassion. I talk a great game, but I only gave myself maybe a "B" or a "B+", and I still have a long-term sex-starved marriage to deal with, lodo. We are ALL just doing the best we can here.
