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[Jack_Three_Beans]

Did her criticisms have any validity to them?

Because follow through might also be a downfall. Not throwing stones here. Just know about one of my wife's former complaints.

As for the weight, are you happy being overweight? Now is the PERFECT time to lose it...not for her, although I would say the benefits there could be mind-blowing, but for you.

So thats my contribution, and I have told her I can be honest with her again, thats not the problem.

Yeah actually it is a problem. She is used to you lying, so now you have to prove that your word is good again. The best advice I can give is actions not words. Never trust the man who says, "Trust me." A man is as only as good as his word. You have to get yours back, make promises sparingly. Fullfil the ones you make.

I'm all to hurt from her acusations, and criticism, to open up right now, it is going to be a process for me.

Tough. Open up, not talking floodgates here, and I am saying NOT about your realtionship, but you had better find the valve and you better start. Little things get the practice. Be prepared for her criticism, but do not let that deter you, this problem happened over time, over time you both will correct it, and re-learn how to talk to each other again. She needs to believe in you again, and you have to suck it up until she does.