H left me a card on the seat of my car this morning thinking of you today, love U, H .
This was after I left lipstick writing on the mirror letting him know I love him and appreciate everything he is to me/us. and some stuff I won't mention. I texted H told him I love him thank you for the card it was so thoughtful.
Great minds think alike I guess. I am starting a journal to keep myself on track and will put this in it.
Today is a good day.
THE EDIT BUTTON WORKS!!!!! YAAAAAAA.
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 06/05/0812:43 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Have you not started another thread yet? How are you doing?
Haven't started a new thread because I have nothing significant going on. Will start a new job in July so I am frantically trying to finish up all the undone projects at my current job. Thanks for asking, Jak.
I am happy to hear about the card from you H. It sounds like he is trying!
I just got caught up on your thread. Sounds like you and H are on the right track. I agree, the post OW stuff is alot harder than I thought. I always wonder why she is on his mind at all if he is so "happy" here with us. H says he feels sorry for her because her dad is dying. I guess he feels like he is her only friend and is not there for her. I just want him to let her go completely and put the needs of this relationship first.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Last Wednesday I went to dinner with a girlfriend. Last minute thing, I met her after work. H worked his 12 hour shift and wasn't home. I called him right after he got home to let him know that I was on my way and that I was out with "Friends" and asked if he wanted me to pick him up something to eat and he said no. When I got hime a half hour later he was very quiet so I did not go into a convo. about my dinner. He stayed distant through the next day and finally said something about me being out boozing Wednesday when it somehow got brought up about him being quiet. I told him that I went to dinner with (old) girlfriend and then met her H for the first time. That his B And S showed up so I met them too for the first time(had to let H know that). I told H if he had been talking to me I would have filled him in on my outing but, that I didn't feel that he wanted to talk to me.
H said I could have called him at work to let him know that I wasn't going to be home so that he could stop to get something to eat. I know this is an excuse.(This coming from the guy who had told me not to call him at work unless it was an emergency). I told him I wasn't going to call him for something like that at work, that I called and let him know as soon as he got home and I was sorry he felt that way.
I DO THINK HE MIGHT BE DOING SOME WONDERING WHATS GOING ON. YA THINK. Sounded a little jealeous to me.
Any way Saturday after my D's Baby Shower in which he helped so much for(and I thanked him and praised him profusly for) he said lets go to the Riverhouse (a nice restaurant/bar that my S's in-law's own) and have a few drinks. It was fun and he hasn't suggested doing something like that in years.
I don't know if it's a good idea to keep the mystery of going out up if he is starting to get jealous, or if it would be a good thing, and how to proceed.
Tal, Haven't read my e-mails yet will try tonght.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
I texted H told him I love him thank you for the card it was so thoughtful.