Puppy you have great advice and I agree 100%, but how do you do it with children. Because ultimately it is a bluff on my end, she needs to have consequences to her actions, but our son will also share in the consequences. I continue to just go day by day, bending over so that we will have at least the outward appearance of a 'happy family'
Lynn,
It's even MORE imperative with children. Do you want your children growing up in an environment where their mother is dating other men, while being married to their father?
However, that being said, it CANNOT merely be a "bluff" on your end. A boundary is a demarcation line of personal integrity, something that -- if crossed -- you CANNOT abide. So, by definition, WHATEVER your boundaries are going to be, for you personally, they need to be what you cannot live with, because it violates your own personal integrity.
If having an emotional affair with another man is NOT something for which you're willing to let the marriage end, then don't do what I'm advocating. I'm assuming it was.
So long as she knows you won't do anything about it, she will continue to cake-eat.
