I'm assuming that you meant "WOULDN'T" be dating other people. Let me know if that's not correct.
I think you need to re-read my posts to you. I am NOT advocating an ultimatum. Ultimatums are about CONTROL. What I'm advocating is that you let your wife know what YOUR boundaries are, and what YOU are willing to put up with (or not).
What she then does with that information is entirely up to her.
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She will say something similar to this. The only thing I would add is that I have no problem with you putting YOURSELF before me during this time, but not HIM. Then she would say that you're trying to control me. You always have to be in charge and run the situation. How are we ever going to have a marriage again if you can't trust me, or let me have friends.
I'd suggest you say "You may have whatever female friendships you wish. I'm not willing to tolerate an inappropriate emotional attachment to another man, if that's indeed all it even is at this point.
Would you be willing to show me your last 10 text messages, sent and received, between you and him?"
If she's not, then I would treat the situation as if she is having a full-blown physical affair at this point, and plan accordingly.
