Have a question about my sitch

[Bworl]

Well it seems as though you're getting a little put out by our advice and comments. I guess that's because you keep hearing the same thing from us.

And that's because you don't seem to be listening. Or, if you're listening, you don't seem to be doing anything about it.

Read your posts.

They are all about her. What she's doing, what she's thinking, who she's with, and what all those things mean about how she is thinking about the two of you.

You don't like our advice because our advice basically amounts to putting the focus on you and then making sure that you are real, honest, and not whigged out when you interact with her.

You can't do the real, honest, secure, confident, and not whigged out when you interact with her if all you are doing is filling your time with obsessing about her and her thoughts/actions.

That's cool though, because most people who first come to this board are in the same state. And we try to adjust your focus because we know how fruitless it is. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

If you get your act together, you can get to a point where you begin quietly pursuing her again. But it's a different kind of pursuit than you used when you first fell in love. The best example I've read on this site is to approach your walk away like you would approach a squirrel with some nuts to eat. Sudden moves, loud moves, all will scare it off.

But the important part of the previous paragraph is the first six words. And I see you wanting to skirt through that part and get right to the fixing/pursuing.

You can try it. History says it won't work so well.



Blessings,

Bill