How do I stop obsessing

[lynn97]

What was your agreement regarding dating other people while you are separated?

That we would start or be in any other relationships.

If she says "we're just friends," say "First of all, we BOTH know that's not true, but even if it were, you'd be putting a friendship AHEAD of your husband, and that's not right. If the situation were reversed, I would honor your wishes."

She will say something similar to this. The only thing I would add is that I have no problem with you putting YOURSELF before me during this time, but not HIM. Then she would say that you're trying to control me. You always have to be in charge and run the situation. How are we ever going to have a marriage again if you can't trust me, or let me have friends.

The last two posts seem like taking it beyond LRT and going to after the last resort. Isn't it too early for that? Should I be giving the D ultimatum at this point?

Lynn