ditto what karen said. Looooooong ago, when stbx first left he actually, for a minute there, wanted to turn to God, he went to SIL's church, the pastor there was all doom and gloom and just spend time telling him how wrong he was, needless to say, he never went back.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.