How do I stop obsessing

[lynn97]

You're right Puppy. I've been trying to just ignore the A or pretend it's not happing because that is easier for me. Ok, I'm back and it's happening so what do I do. I just don't want to make things any worse. It does still seem like it's in the beginning but it's moving fast. If it hasn't been physical yet it will be soon I bet. Especially with her new look.

Because of our separation I can't talk to her about it, that's against our agreement (of course so is having another relationship). I thought about talking to him to see if I could make him feel guilty and that would help, but I doubt guilt would trump the feelings they're having.

Next Sunday is our day to talk about R issues so I could bring it up there. But that goes against LRT right? Can I really talk to her about setting a boundary at this point? I wouldn't even know what to say. She is in a place now where she isn't sure she wants us to work. So I can't say if you want us to work we need a boundary. She'll just say no you're controlling me, you'll never let me have my independence and you'll never trust me. I don't see how we can ever make it work.

Lynn