How do I stop obsessing

[lynn97]

I just realized another problem after reading a few post. Since this A is just in the beginning stages I want to stop it. I want to put my foot down before it gets worse. I know that will only push her into OM arms but it sooo hard not to do.

I really want to believe her that she can just be friends with him and to trust her, but the phone records are telling me she is talking with him an awful lot.

Another telling sign is that she's completely shut down from me. Right before the separation started we were starting to communicate better, we were reconnecting on an emotional level, etc. Then after the first night she left all of that was gone. I know she had talked to hours on the phone with him.

She is also buying new clothes, getting her hair and nails done, etc. Is it really for herself?

I'm so tired of this and it's only the 1st week of my separation, how am I supposed to get through months of this?

Lynn