I took my dad into my new office to show him around and my W shows up. I was surprised because she was in MD today and I did not expect her back till late. She said she knew I would be here and just wanted to stop by since everyone went home early today.
That's a positive that she stopped by I think. She still cares or she would not stop by.
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W again did not come to bed till midnight. Tryed to snuggle up to her. Why is it she seems so friendly and nice and we get along during the day. We talk I try to listen and ask questions. Say thank you for the little things she does but whenever I get close it is instant ice cube. She just layed there like a log. Didn't move didn't do anything. I feel like I am invading her space. I just thought it would have been a nice ending to a good weekend.
She's not coming to bed until midnight because she does not want to snuggle. She hopes you'll be asleep and won't pressure her like your doing. YOU NEED TO STOP THIS, unless she initiates.
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I need to stop doing that. I guess again I need to let her initiate all contact otherwise she is very cold. Its sort of like I want everthing to be nice and peaceful around the house but we are only platonic roomates so keep your distance.
Yes, yes and more yes..and immediately.
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She had noticed I have lost weight and that I am looking good. Also was wondering why I am always dressed nice. Told her I like to be dressed nice and it makes me feel good. Not sure if she thinks I am only looking good all the time to impress her or what but it does make me feel more confident and it is also to impress her.
OK..here's where it gets a little dicey sometimes. See, I think GAL'ing and losing weight is a good thing but it's a double edged sword. See, you've lost weight, you're taking good care of yourself, you're dressing nice. In her mind she might think you're putting yourself out there to be available to other women. She might suspect you're having an affair. Don't change anything your doing, continue to dress nice and let her know it makes you feel confident if she asks. Tell her you're starting a new business venture and you need to have an air of confidence about you. You also need to show her you're not having an affair by accounting for your time. Be considerate, keep her informed and in the loop.
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I just don't know what to do. Everybody says paitence and I do see alot of positive things but still tomorrow it will be one year since the imfamous speach and I just would like a little bit more. How do you win the heart of someone that tells you that her feelings are dead for you.
Keep doing what you're doing. Don't backslide.
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I am just frustrated this morning.
Hell, we're all frustrated. hang in there. Stop trying to snuggle her..that's pressure. Go to bed and go to sleep..she's still in the same bed with you..That's a good thing. if you have words at all, apologize for your part in it and validate her..
You're doing good man. Keep it up..Just stop the pressure, she will run if you don't.
