Glad you are feeling more positive. I am so sorry to hear about your work colleague.
It is good that you have some structure with your w, it will help with the feelings of anxiety. Just keep calm, go with the flow but keep observing the situation and 180 if you need to. Remember that you have learnt so much and rely that some of it will have sunk in.
You said she likes the way things are going. I see that as a positive in starting your 'new' relationship with your wife. Try to take the pressure off yourself, as humans we are natuarally not perfect but you can do your best and now you are armed with tools to help yourself and the situation.
