Part IX: Things are Heating Up!

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Rob... I think your W is angry at herself.. I would be, because I am sure there is a grain of truth in what she is saying? But, people only do to you what you let them. If she felt isolated from friends and family, she allowed that to happen, there is no point blaming you.

On the gifts.. I have noticed you saying you have bought D this and that as you retell your days with her, so maybe hse has a point there? Its not good to give kids everything they want? Do you think that your W has a point there? (but making too big a deal out of it, hey, cut you some slack, your W and child just left and you miss them and you want to spoil her and make her happy, its understandable) - its like, why cant she be more gentle about hte way she sees your sitch? She has no sympathy with your plight, she feels justified in walking out and she thinkgs its your fault and she should suck it up! I would reply:

Why dont you stop fighting ME for my right to 50% of custody, shes not just your D, shes as much mine and I have as much right to raise her as you do. And, stop blaming me for how things were, people only do to you what you let them, you should have COMMUNICATED with me if you felt that bad. Take some repsonsibility.

Your loving ex-H

Ok, thats not DBing, but I am mad at your W. She is a big child.

Hope you are ok Rob, you have had such a tough time of it, sorry if this post is a bit challenging? You are a great dad, ok, you buy too much stuff at the moment, but at least you are committed and loving and hands on, many men would have given up and walked away in your shoes, I know some that have done that and they dont see their kids. So be proud of that,

Ali x