Ok, flipper first no plans are evil!!! It just helps us to get our S's back...that is not evil, that is us working against the enemy for plotting against us!!!

Second, I am all for having an attack plan. I'm an OCD control freak!! My friend who is totally down with the whole DB thing...is like girl you have got to let go...like big time. When I heard H could possibly be dating the crazy chick again, I was ready to stir up the pot a little...I have calmed my crazy little self down, and will let God work on the other side of that mountain for me \:\) so we will work on some 180's for you!

First off, what have you done? What were complaints about you during your R/M. A true 180 has to be changing the things she complained about the most. My best example is one I am currently doing...I used to chase chase chase, text text text, ask to cook dinner, want to do everything for my H. I have stopped it all cold turkey. He's not knowing what to think. When he does text, I don't feed into the things he wants me to feed into...like asking him to do something...he asked me at least 5 times last week what I was doing, kept givin him crazy answers...I know he wanted me to ask him back what he was doing, or if he wanted to do something...can't give him that little piece of satisifaction...cause then it's game over! And I would be bak to square one for at least a month, totally not worth it. Yes it's one big game, and I'm along for the crazy train ride along!!

So now, we have to figure out what is going to make her tick, and get you to do it! Then we will have some success! Get a coaching session scheduled...that will give you a base as well!

good luck
christa

H-32
Me-29
T-10years
M-4yr (10/04)
Me- WAW 1/07
I filed for D 2/07
D put on hold 5/07
H re-files for D 9/08
WOW! trying MC 10/08

"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"