Christa, no apologies necessary. Besides, didn't you start this thread? I think I hijacked it \:\) Right now take that as gossip until you know otherwise.

Sounds like you had a great time. That's what's important right now. I spoke to my W's friend and ran the "let me go" thing by her. She only speculated. They haven't talked in awhile. W's friend still has a glimmer of hope for us but feels W is trying to "find herself" (Gag!). Basically, it feels like, no matter what, the W wants this D and will stop at nothing to gain her "freedom". Sounds like she doesn't know WHAT she wants and the grass might be greener.

W has admitted to me, in the past, and recently to others that she cries but must do this. She feels she has no other choice and "This is what I have to do."

Christa, I think you may have said that she was trying to get my attention. But it seems like, no matter what, this D means something to her. I speculate that it represents independence to her. If it weren't for my PTSD, I would say she's MLC.

Some other reliable intel...a certain counselor (a few months ago) had her to where she almost would sit down with me in a couples session...but she backed out. She had issues to iron out with me but got cold feet.

Answer to your question: No she was never in trouble and she's a sweety. I do not suspect a EA/PA at all. She's the type of person who cannot tell you what she wants and needs from you. Has a real hard time "criticizing" or speaking out. From what she told me, her therapist WAS helping her with that. Low self esteem. Never thinks she's pretty enough (she's HOT, BTW), doesn't think she's smart. Her friend was just telling me all of this tonight.

Damn, Christa. I love her so much. I'm sworn to secrecy I know but I should be the one praising her. But it sounds like that part is not about me, but about her. Hope she gets help with that. But this new insight might help me with a 180. Sounds slimy to exploit. Yessssss. Exxxxcellent!

Help me with my evil plan, Christa. Seriously, I have no imagination here or even know if I should entertain a 180 on this issue. Ideas?

Me: 46 Second Marriage
WAW: 38 First Marriage
Separated: Dec. 2007
W Filed for D: Feb. 2008
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